Some people take their friends for granted. Others are ready to do anything to get them. Yet, others think that they do not need any friends at all. Being social beings we do need friends and we cannot take them for granted as they add value, purpose, happiness, comfort and many more things to our lives. We have to cherish all close relationships and there are certain things we need to do to keep our friends. I want to mention those things in my article.
Firstly, all friendships will cost you your time. If you want to make and keep friends you will have to spend some time with the people you want to be friends with and those people who want to be friends with you. Time is probably one of the biggest assets that we have and it is not easy to take this asset and give it to somebody else, even if that person is your friend. However, friends are also among top sorts of ‘asset’. Friendship takes time to develop and retain. If you have no time for your friend or friends, you will lose them.
Secondly, friendship will require self sacrifice from you. Although this point is similar to the first one, self sacrifice includes much more than sacrificing your time for your friend. It might mean sacrificing some of your interests, change of opinion in many cases, event that you have pre-planned, sleep and many more. It does not mean you will not be yourself, but it means that occasionally you will sacrifice something that is important for you to help and support your friend. This has to go both ways in order for relationship to remain healthy. Your friend has to be ready to do the same thing.
Thirdly, you will need to have a lot of patience in any friendship. People are different. In the beginning those differences attract, but when you spend more and more time with the person those differences will cause a lot of friction. It happens not only when people get married, but in various relationships. Friends have to learn to be patient and bear the differences that make them nervous. You cannot expect the other person to be the same as you, like absolutely the same things, have the same opinion of all topics and always agree with you. I would not like to have such a friend. That would be one more me! So, learn to be patient to your friend.
And the last thing that is absolutely necessary in friendship is a positive attitude. Any relationship becomes a ‘curse’ if one or both people see everything from a negative perspective. How can you enjoy a relationship with a person who is always unhappy, complaining and seeing only bad things in life? You might try to help that type of person for some time, but if the person does not change his/her attitude you will not be able to be friends with him/her for a long time. In order to go on in life you have to be positive and know how to smile things off. True friends are positive about one another. So, be positive!